歌曲：一路向北
歌手：周杰伦 (头文字d 电影插曲)
词:方文山
曲:周杰伦
后视镜里的世界
越来越远的道别
你转身向背
侧脸还是很美
我用眼光去追
竟听见你的泪
在车窗外面排徊
是我错失的机会
你站的方位
跟我中间隔着泪
街景一直在后退
你的崩溃在窗外零碎
我一路向北
离开有你的季节
你说你好累 (方向盘周围)
已无法再爱上谁 (回转着我的后悔)
风在山路吹 (我加速超越)
过往的画面 (却甩不掉)
全都是我不对 (紧紧跟随的伤悲)
细数惭愧
我伤你几回 (停止狼狈就让错纯粹)
King of the Birds, Lord of the Skies
Gather ye rose buds while ye may, old time is still a flying;
and this same rose that you see today, tomorrow will be dying.
CarpeDiem: Seize the Day!
- Dead Poets Society
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Positive Affirmation vs Power Words
af·fir·ma·tion/ˌæfərˈmeɪʃən/ [af-er-mey-shuhn]
Meaning:
1. the assertion that something exists or is true.
2. a statement or proposition that is declared to be true.
3. ratification of the truth or validity of a prior judgment, decision, etc.
4. a solemn declaration accepted instead of a statement under oath.
5. to assert positively
Positive affirmations have been considered the panacea within the self improvement industry for a long time. Most of the self improvement guru's teach it. However, if affirmations were as effective as they are made out to be, then why are we all not wealthy? Popular? Harmonious? Creative? Slim?
Why? Because our conscious mind interacts and interprets information we are receiving, and filters "unrealistic" messages (messages that contradict our more deeply held views) from the subconscious mind. That's its job!
How many have repeated over & over again, sometimes for months & even years on end, the simple sentence, "I am wealthy"? Were you wealthy at the time? If not, your subconscious mind was filtering that message as a lie. It says, "Yeah right, you don't have two dimes to rub together pal, get a clue." That message, the lie, is the one the subconscious mind accepts as the truth. That message is the reality the subconscious mind works on.
Truth is, no amount of present tense affirming that "A" is not "A" will ever change "A" to not "A". If you are affirming you're 1.80m tall when you're 1.69m tall, this tells your mind that you are crazy, or a liar, or even both! Yes, there is a reason you may have been feeling foolish and futile with your affirmations!
The problem lies in using the words "I am". When you use "I am" and you are not, you are opening up yourself for attack from the subconscious mind. Get rid of the notion of affirmations and replace it with a concept of Power Words.
Look again at the word wealthy. When using positive affirmations we would say to ourselves, "I am wealthy." Change the word wealthy into wealth and you now have a Power Word. Now say to yourselves, "wealth."
In quiet contemplation we think about the concept of wealth and what it means to us. What kind of lifestyle changes would we have if we had wealth. Where would we live, what would we drive, what cause would we donate part of our wealth to.
By just thinking about the concept of wealth you're instructing your conscious mind to tell your subconscious mind to personalize what the word means to you. You create in your subsconscious your reality of the word. You leave no doubt as to what the word encompasses without having to try to fool your subconscious mind into believing you already have it.
I have personally experienced successes not by lying to my conscious mind by telling it something that isn't true, but instead by laying the groundwork in the subconscious through conceptual thinking and creating the atmosphere by which the successes were attainable.
Fact is: Using affirmations in conjunction with the words, "I am" can be self-sabotaging and lead to frustration, confusion and self-doubt. Unfortunately, this is the concept that many of us have been taught. And even more unfortunately, the use of this concept is what is holding back many of us on our personal development journey, and even leading some into abandoning the journey all together.
Practice the concept of Power Words. Here's what I do. I choose a new Power Word each week, and during my quiet time I contemplate what the word means to me. Below is a list of some of the Power Words I consider important to my personal development. You can use the same list or modify it. As long as you get rid of positive affirmations and replace it with POWER WORDS!
Peace
Harmony
Honesty
Charity
Freedom
Wisdom
Kindness
Inspiration
Intelligence
Memory
Grace
Confidence
Abundance
Health
Strength
Energy
Vitality
Power
Serenity
Love
Creativity
Life
Success
Happiness
Resourcefulness
Persistence
Purpose
Achievement
Power Up With Power Words, my friends!
Things do not change; we change.
-Henry David Thoreau
You can create the energy to turn your dreams into reality by knowing what to say when you talk to yourself.
-Shad Helmstetter
Meaning:
1. the assertion that something exists or is true.
2. a statement or proposition that is declared to be true.
3. ratification of the truth or validity of a prior judgment, decision, etc.
4. a solemn declaration accepted instead of a statement under oath.
5. to assert positively
Positive affirmations have been considered the panacea within the self improvement industry for a long time. Most of the self improvement guru's teach it. However, if affirmations were as effective as they are made out to be, then why are we all not wealthy? Popular? Harmonious? Creative? Slim?
Why? Because our conscious mind interacts and interprets information we are receiving, and filters "unrealistic" messages (messages that contradict our more deeply held views) from the subconscious mind. That's its job!
How many have repeated over & over again, sometimes for months & even years on end, the simple sentence, "I am wealthy"? Were you wealthy at the time? If not, your subconscious mind was filtering that message as a lie. It says, "Yeah right, you don't have two dimes to rub together pal, get a clue." That message, the lie, is the one the subconscious mind accepts as the truth. That message is the reality the subconscious mind works on.
Truth is, no amount of present tense affirming that "A" is not "A" will ever change "A" to not "A". If you are affirming you're 1.80m tall when you're 1.69m tall, this tells your mind that you are crazy, or a liar, or even both! Yes, there is a reason you may have been feeling foolish and futile with your affirmations!
The problem lies in using the words "I am". When you use "I am" and you are not, you are opening up yourself for attack from the subconscious mind. Get rid of the notion of affirmations and replace it with a concept of Power Words.
Look again at the word wealthy. When using positive affirmations we would say to ourselves, "I am wealthy." Change the word wealthy into wealth and you now have a Power Word. Now say to yourselves, "wealth."
In quiet contemplation we think about the concept of wealth and what it means to us. What kind of lifestyle changes would we have if we had wealth. Where would we live, what would we drive, what cause would we donate part of our wealth to.
By just thinking about the concept of wealth you're instructing your conscious mind to tell your subconscious mind to personalize what the word means to you. You create in your subsconscious your reality of the word. You leave no doubt as to what the word encompasses without having to try to fool your subconscious mind into believing you already have it.
I have personally experienced successes not by lying to my conscious mind by telling it something that isn't true, but instead by laying the groundwork in the subconscious through conceptual thinking and creating the atmosphere by which the successes were attainable.
Fact is: Using affirmations in conjunction with the words, "I am" can be self-sabotaging and lead to frustration, confusion and self-doubt. Unfortunately, this is the concept that many of us have been taught. And even more unfortunately, the use of this concept is what is holding back many of us on our personal development journey, and even leading some into abandoning the journey all together.
Practice the concept of Power Words. Here's what I do. I choose a new Power Word each week, and during my quiet time I contemplate what the word means to me. Below is a list of some of the Power Words I consider important to my personal development. You can use the same list or modify it. As long as you get rid of positive affirmations and replace it with POWER WORDS!
Peace
Harmony
Honesty
Charity
Freedom
Wisdom
Kindness
Inspiration
Intelligence
Memory
Grace
Confidence
Abundance
Health
Strength
Energy
Vitality
Power
Serenity
Love
Creativity
Life
Success
Happiness
Resourcefulness
Persistence
Purpose
Achievement
Power Up With Power Words, my friends!
Things do not change; we change.
-Henry David Thoreau
You can create the energy to turn your dreams into reality by knowing what to say when you talk to yourself.
-Shad Helmstetter
Time Management
What do you consider the most important factor for managing one's time effectively?
The number one factor I would consider is to get yourself to the point where you know what the most important things are to you - your priorities; those things that when they are done will move you on toward your goal. I want to know those priorities so well that it becomes second nature to me and then when it comes time to make a decision as to what I will do or how I will spend my time, I will make the right choice.
You see time management really isn't time management, per se. It is ultimately self-management as we relate to our priorities. My church pastor called it life management.
So I would encourage you to take time on a regular basis and examine all of the options available to you that you can spend your time on. You can do this as you look at your whole life or as you look at a segment of your life.
Once you see what your options are, then make a priority list. What things are the most important? And let me say "most important," not "most enjoyable." As you do this, you see where you must spend your time.
The number one factor I would consider is to get yourself to the point where you know what the most important things are to you - your priorities; those things that when they are done will move you on toward your goal. I want to know those priorities so well that it becomes second nature to me and then when it comes time to make a decision as to what I will do or how I will spend my time, I will make the right choice.
You see time management really isn't time management, per se. It is ultimately self-management as we relate to our priorities. My church pastor called it life management.
So I would encourage you to take time on a regular basis and examine all of the options available to you that you can spend your time on. You can do this as you look at your whole life or as you look at a segment of your life.
Once you see what your options are, then make a priority list. What things are the most important? And let me say "most important," not "most enjoyable." As you do this, you see where you must spend your time.
5 Love Languages (Part 5)
Physical Touch
Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.
Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.
Clarification needed: By sexual intercourse, I meant within the sacred ring of marriage. Any sexual intimacy outside the premise of marriage is not love, but lust; and that's sin! In additional, demanding sexual favours outside the context of marriage is not love, but blackmailing!
It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.
All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.
It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.
Eagleboy's score on this: 1st! (ie it's my most important, primary love language!)
Though I may respond very positively to touch, please please please, wash your hands before touching me, especially right after your visit from the private oasis!
Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.
Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.
Clarification needed: By sexual intercourse, I meant within the sacred ring of marriage. Any sexual intimacy outside the premise of marriage is not love, but lust; and that's sin! In additional, demanding sexual favours outside the context of marriage is not love, but blackmailing!
It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.
All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.
It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.
Eagleboy's score on this: 1st! (ie it's my most important, primary love language!)
Though I may respond very positively to touch, please please please, wash your hands before touching me, especially right after your visit from the private oasis!
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